See two things are going on
- with the OTD crisis, orthodox jews are going through a seismic shift that's on the level of when polytheism lost favor in Europe to Christianity.
- Orthodox Jews are going through a Brain Drain. A Brain Drain is what political science calls when someone from the third world gets educated in the west and they don't wanna go back because it sucks.
Sad part is if orthodoxy would just give people a freaken break here and there with the halachas for this halachas for that halachas halachas for everything then none of this would be happening.