See, when people walk into Orthodox Judaism, people deserve to have a realistic perception of Orthodox Judaism, instead of a sugarcoated perception of aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaw everyone gets happily married by matchmakers (shidduch crisis), marriages are nice and happy in the orthodox world (agunot crisis), orthodox jews are perfectly INNOCENT and could do no wrong (chareidi parasites in Israel).
People are imperfect. Since people are imperfect, human institutions are imperfect. We understand this in politics. Winston Churchill understood this and said "Democracy is the worst form of government, except for everything else." Democracy is certainly preferable, but even democracy at least in its purest form is not what America's founders gave us.
Just like human nature dictates that imperfect qualities exists in political institutions, imperfections lurk in religious institutions. It is an unavoidable fact of life. Anytime there is an individual there is going to be imperfections, and it leads to the fact that anytime there is aaaaaaany kind of group, there are imperfections.
It certainly don't mean that groups are bad. Groups are a good thing. No human being is an island.
I'm merely calling for honesty in a religious group that I personally didn't have the best experience in the world with. XD
The problem is the Kiruv industry liiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiies like bitches in order to reel people into religious fairyland wonderland la la land neverland etc. and people deserve to be educated not indoctrinated.
If I see a Kiruvnic article on a website such as Aish, Ohr Somayach, or any other religious website, and it lies or twists the truth somehow, I will expose it. If you are a kiruvnic writer, BE HONEST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Or I will catch you, not personally of course, I indeed merely stick to the issues of what the lie is and what the truth is.
On the You Me Religion blog, I was having a discussion with Miss Chaviva on whether or not Jewish doctrine accepts the existence of Heaven and Hell. Miss Chaviva wrote
Unfortunately, Miss Chaviva is mistakin on most counts.
Firstly I'll address the meat of the discussion we were having.
The Talmud in Berakoth 57b says that Hell is 60 times hotter than earthly fire. Cleaaaaaarly, standard Jewish doctrine from the Torah and the Talmud affirms the existence of Hell. Rashi affirms the existence of Hell.
There is no way around the fact that the Old Testament, the Talmud, and Rashi, refers to Hell by name.
Now, to the part where Miss Chaviva accuses me of disrespecting her as a convert. If she were a Frum From Birth, I'd straight up call her a liar but since she is something other than a FFB I will give her the benefit of the doubt. Miss Chaviva suggested that I diminish her knowledge as a convert when in reality I point out that she has her own view on this particular issue.
I will assume that Miss Chaviva is not a scheming kiruvnic, and all of orthodox judaism is not bad. I love Jewish cuisine actually. The food is like one of the only reasons I'm not saying f### Judaism altogether I'm going to go to Christianity. If the rabbis (some of them ;D ) and the women (some of them ;D ) aren't reasons for keeping Jewish culture alive then the food is. XD
In all seriousness I can see how people can go to Orthodox Judaism because of the structure it provides. However, people are different. Some people need lots of structure. I feel the need for a minimal amount of structure. People gotta do what they gotta do to be happy, and I opine that it's best for people to go into Orthodox Judaism as an educated decision and not out of promises of Heaven on Earth.