The Failed Messiah blog has a sad but extremely relevant point on orthodox hypocrisy and that is, haredim try to fight modern orthodox conversions but chabad and "Rabbi" Tropper's conversions are still valid to haredim. Chabad of course, is messianic, a breach of Maimonides' 13 principles of faith that orthodox jews consider unbreakable, and "Rabbi" Tropper's sex scandal, his abuse of authority, made it to the New York Post.
How are people supposed to want to become Jewish with nonsense like this? Stuff that takes away Judaism's role as a culturally attractive force is not good for the Jewish people or Judaism.
What personally detracted me from Judaism more more than anything is that it is too focused on lifestyle stringencies that have no practical benefit to them. "We do stuff because God (i.e. rabbinical interpretations of the Torah) tells us so, and we don't have to understand it," does not work for me.
Another nice wonderful aspect of orthodox society is that even though the Torah says that people should not be held responsible for the wrongdoings of their parents, orthodox girls as a whole would rather date people from orthodox families, rather than halacha following individuals not from orthodox households. Chumra after chumra for dietary laws but not for ethical laws. O.o
One can believe in God without dealing with the bull shit that orthodox judaism makes people go through.