Normally I probably would have given JRKmommy the usual treatment but I gave it a break this time because she was learning that everything she valued as cutting edge shit was really a whole lot of bull shit. This is not an easy experience.
JRKmommy has utterly failed to establish how practicing orthodox judaism benefits employed singles. When you are an employed single and you practice orthodox judaism, you benefit the religion without it benefiting you.
The kasharut rabbis get your money. The synagogue gets your money on high holidays (disallowed to do business on high holidays!). Talking to girls and dating girls gets discouraged or disallowed. And what do you get in return for all your troubles of paying $$$$$ to keep kosher and not having Saturday free? For all your sacrifice? RULES!!!!!!!!!!! The reward for following the rules is having the rules to follow. The Orthodox can also cut the shit about Hashem because the reform jews are richer than the orthodox jews.
- work provides enough structure we don't need strict religion + work to provide structure. However, if you don't have work then strict religion can be of help to give structure.
- Orthodox Judaism does not make you more moral. Do you need a whole gemarah to not bother anyone? not call names or talk crap about people? etc. Orthodox Judaism is about social engineering and self propagation, not about making people more moral.
When you are unemployed yes the talmud can keep you busy, but when you are employed, you wanna do your own stuff.
Oh and also, you can be individualistically spiritual. Orthodox Judaism does not have a monopoly on spirituality.
There are also other types of communities besides religious communities.
Ultimately you have to have the strength, courage, and knowledge to balance the two extremes of hedonism and asceticism in a way that you are comfortable with, and to self actualize in your own way.
There is no compelling reason for an employed single to practice orthodox judaism.